The Wounded Feminine

• Sacrificial at her own expense — the “martyr complex”

• Craves attention and validation at any cost

• Flaunts and is excessive in her sexuality

• Acts from scarcity and fear

• Lacks self-worth and self-belief- masks this with her physicality and/or sexuality

• Derives her value from how others treat and see her

• Constantly seeking “father-figure” approval

• Is manipulative in her relationships

• Often carries excessive masculine energy

• Pretends to “get along” with other women, but secretly despises them

• Scarcity-driven

• Shrinking / Hiding from the world

We hold both masculine and feminine energies within ourselves. Both extremes and balances exist within our expression and beliefs. It’s a way to understand our energy and then choose what to do with where we are in life.

In any overly intense expression, we are unhealthy. When we are living from fear we express in extremes. Whether we like to believe it or not, there are some differences in how men and women behave AND there are also many human similarities that we share in how we deal with both pain and joy.

Culture and society tell has conditioned us in alignment with certain tendencies to respond at times differently to challenge. And that certain unhealthy patterns are more associated or more prominent with specific genders. That is not to say they don’t exist within both.

We often become triggered or upset when we notice unhealthy behaviours in ourselves. The truth is it’s just an opportunity for growth.

The opportunity to change, shift and transmute. When we recognize and embrace where we are at may not be serving us we embrace the potential for healthy change. Transformation that is in greater alignment with our authentic truth.

Extremes tend to show up the most in relationship. We tend to be pushed to our edge by our mirror (our intimate other). When I am most upset at my beloved, it is usually me behaving unhealthily and choosing to react as opposed to respond. I may blame the other for my feeling of scarcity for example but the truth is they are shining a light on my shadow thinking and this is the gift.

One is glad to be of service.